Fear is a terrible, but effective conditioner. Sometimes its useful for survival, i.e. be afraid of the beehive you just threw a stone at or the massive wave of water crashing on the beach! But sometimes it´s really, really damaging.

Sometimes we internalize false or limiting beliefs, or adopt defensive mechanisms that teach us that we must be afraid of ourselves. Whether it´s your past, your present, your future, your power, your vulnerability, your wisdom, your strength, your weakness – fear can twist it around into something you need to avoid to ´survive´.

And sometimes you can be conditioned to fear something that would actually help you manifest a fuller, happier, more rewarding life. So much so that you instinctively fear and avoid the very thing that might make you feel whole again.

So what do you do?

Sometimes the only thing you can do is to look it in the eye and say So What? (Borrowing that from Mum)

And sometimes you have to gently ease yourself back into the habits, spaces and parts of your being you have so assiduously avoided.

And sometimes you have to just feel the fear and do it anyway. Go the Nike way.

And often all of the above.

When you´re trying to be conscious of an analyze its origins, etc. a good first step is to ask yourself

  • What am I afraid of?

  • What´s the Doomsday Scenario? And is it really that scary?

  • Who taught me how and why I should be afraid of X Y Z?

And so on.

The more you unravel the story, the less power the fear tends to have.

And you have the opportunity to create different neural pathways, by forming different associations with the story (as you knew it).

But sometimes you know the story in and out and you get stuck in it. How does it happen? What do you do about it?

What our minds tell us to be afraid of often manifests itself as an energetic block, usually in a more vulnerable chakra. And the mind creates its own rationale and version of self-perception and narrative around that block. That gets reinforced and forms a rut.

Whilst sometimes you can address your fears through the mind, other times you need to work from the place in your energybody where the block has formed or manifested. Sometimes the mind plays games to pretend the block does not exist. This creates a blindspot. So you need other methods of knowing. This can apply to other emotional states as well.

Gemstones like black obsidian and selenite can help you identify the blockages. The oils that come to mind (research before use) are clary sage and black pepper. But there are many other alternatives.

You can also find awareness by seeking a state of heightened emotion that overrides habitual forms of energetic denial. Subconsciously, we do this by attracting people into our lives that will (one way or another) force us to see the blindspot – even if it´s in another person (or your subconscious projects it on them as you do not wish to see it in yourself). But there are other ways of doing it as well.

Bodyworking, tai chi, dancing, even deep breath – anything that moves energy through your body and into spaces you´re holding or suppressing energy in will equally be beneficial. Sometimes you need to take a roundabout way to get to the root source, especially if the psyche is invested in denying it exists.

But where fear is accompanied by deep trauma, it is best to work with a faciliator who can hold space for you in a way that supports your growth process.

Geting to the root of fear (and then other fears) is an art in itself.

You don´t need to do it all by yourself.

And there is no shame in that.

Dr Bairavee Balasubramaniam PhD
The Sky Priestess

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  1. Victoria says:

    Your fears are pretty real when your midheaven Saturn square your Sun, Venus, Neptune in Scorpio 8 house 😉

    1. Dr. Bairavee Balasubramaniam PhD says:

      Depends on how you look at it x Your obstacles , trials and challenges can be very literally manifested. But is your choice to look at it with fear, courage, or both 🙂 And that´s where you will find the alchemy of the 8th house kick in x I hope that helps.


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